Self-Pamper - Indulgence vs Extravagance

We live in a hectic world, and most of you would actually agree on this. Our daily life might appear very robtic in nature- you know, it's all about, WAKE UP, GO WORK/CLASS, COME BACK and SLEEP. Fill up some 'meals' in between. In summary, we're all lacking of fun! Once in a while, our soul might scream out of protestations! Then, it rings in your mind, maybe you need to be PAMPERED to some extend.

And when that happens, you will find most women heading for manicure/pedicure, SPA massage, hair treatment, facial, shopping and of course carbs and fat ! I'm not sure about men, they're from different planet, you see.

Sometimes, I often think, is self-pamper really necessary? Every cent is hard-earned and hell yeah, tossing them for self-pamper, will actually put me into difficult situation. It's like, should I or should I not.And maybe I reassure myself by saying, it's okay, just this once. This sounds sort of like I'm trying hard to forgive myself !

Actually, if you're looking for a cheaper options to pamper yourself, the following ideas might be helpful:

- Read a book - You don't have to buy it all the time, just rent one from the nearest library. Grab of almost anything relaxing, how about romance genre?

- Go for movies - At least it cheaper than of pedicure package. You save much if you're renting DVD's.

- Backpacking - If not to the Alps, at least you can go to Broga Hill, or maybe Penang Hill :P

-Cooking or baking - It's an art of self-expression. Come on, bring up the hidden talent.


You should pamper yourself at times, to free yourself from stress effect. Yeah, after working 7/24, motivation is absolutely necessary. If you could afford a pedicure, why not? After all, life is not just living for others, and remember money comes and goes too.

Charity Calls

Are you interested in getting involved with any form of charity work. Here I would like to share of some available within our country.

1. Hospis Malaysia

 - If you love helping people without any expectation, if you're the one enjoy seeing smile or tears in happiness on others, probably Hospis Malaysia needs you. Hospis Malaysia is a palliative care unit whereby it attampts to address some of the unmet needs of the terminally-ill or people living with life-limiting diseases such as AIDS, multiple sclerosis and others as well as their family members. Believe me, this is not EASY but the satisfaction is great. You need to be an unconditional listener, exhibit good sense of humor, flexible and possess good integrity. Further information shall be obtained from website shared below.

http://www.hospismalaysia.org/index.php?mid=262

2. Befriender - When The World Shut You Out, We Are Still Open

- If you are naturally a good listener, non-judgemental, probably here's where you belong. Befriender is a non-profit organisation which offers emotional support for those in need. This organisation attends people with various concern, relationships, money,sickness, depression and almost any disatisfaction. You can choose to be anonymous via attending phone callers. You may even come across suicidal cases. People will never know that you're a Befriender. Human nature, listening without assumption is never easy but Befriender provides training for the volunteers to leave your personal opinions at the door of the centre, and on finishing your duty to leave the callers and their problems in the centre for next person to deal. Interested? Click on the following link.

http://www.befrienders.org.my/support.html

3. Mercy Malaysia - Healing Across Border

- If you are a humanitarian and looking for opportunity to get involved in big scale charity, maybe you could try for this. You will be involving in life-saving missions,rehabilitation, prevention and instilling public readiness. Adventure is guaranteed as your volunteering could be expanded to other countries in need. The most important quality is sincerity, you can either become a volunteer or just merely contribute donation. Volunteering needs good health and both physical and mental stamina, you will be entitled for training. Are you ready for this challenge, then have a closer look via provided link.

http://www.mercy.org.my/1002040658%c2%bbJoin_Our_Society.aspx

4. WWF Malaysia

Love nature? Imagine greener cities, cleaner water and happier community, you can actually contribute to all these. From research to public awareness programme, your contribution is needed. You will be in the mission to save the planet! Of course, you can donate too! Check out the following link for further details.

http://www.wwf.org.my/about_wwf/who_we_are/


There are many more non-profit organizations which are not mentioned here. Charity should begin from self. Sincerity is the value in the intention. Charity is not limited to money only, your service and support can be counted in too. If you haven't found any life purpose yet, perhaps this is your purpose-to help others in need.

The Art of Letting Go

No matter how much we like something or someone, sooner or later we'll have to learn to let go. It is not easy, but we can't continue clinging to them forever. Life is short, and most accurately unpredictable. Change is a law of life, by letting go, we are growing spiritually.

How To Let Go

1. Avoid being obsessed with worldly material, including property and relation. Nothing is eternal, and nobody will be with us forever.

2. When we are angry over anyone, think twice before reacting to them. What's the point shouting to people who don't understand or probably might never understand out situation. Calm down and save your energy!

3. When we didn't get something expected, don't get furious. Instead of living life with strict plans and expectation, try living as what people say 'follow the flow'. There should always be a Plan B.                   

4. What had happened, can't be fixed for better. Thus, no point lamenting over and over. Move on, as new life event is about to take place.

5. No matter what others say about you, the judge is yourself, because you know of yourself better than others.

                                                             

Gold is not reactive, but yet it has good value. Letting go is never a sign of failure or a symptom of cowardice. It is just a key to unlock your future.

  

Survival Tips for Fresh Graduates

Job world is a new era for every fresh graduates. Job life is not easy, and that is why we hear many silent longing to return to college life. College life was tiring but yet it was blossomed with friendship and fun! Working life is unpredictable and full of manipulation. Colleagues cannot always be compared to your friends. Everyone is hungry of position and better salary increament - thus anything is possible!

If you're a fresh graduate who is hunting for job :

1. Please do a detailed research before getting assigned with a job (Attend few interview, compare and contrast before you make any choice).

2. Be aware of your rights and stand for them (Being too demanding for high pay isn't good, but at least demand for the allowances and medical benefits, at least after the probation period).

3. Be sure of your job scope. Be polite, humble and kind, but everything has a limit. Don't allow work bully!


After joining in the job :

1. Learn to respect others and don't show off about your qualification. It is always BEST to start all over again.

2. Learn from everyone, despite of their age or qualification.

3. Voice out your disatisfaction in a proper way. Treat everyone with mercy.

4. Learn to be patient and to let go when things aren't working the way you planned.

5. Instead of being money-minded, be career-minded.

6. Work smartly, know your colleagues well, including their advantages and drawbacks. Make use of the advantages and possibly avoid situations which triggers their drawback.

Working life is full of manipulation and rich in different human nature. Over-protesting is not a solution and might lead you to lose your job. Be yourself and accept the challenge to sharpen your co-existing skills. Beginning is tough, but it leads to experience which is priceless. Remember every expert starts from zero!

Happy Working!

Temporary Marriage ??

Officials in Mexico have brought up a new way to abate the divorce rate, and that is by making marriage temporary! Couples can decide their marriage contract, a minimum of 2 years is required for this bonding. The contract will contain legalese like financial support, how's marital assets are to be divided and who will get the custody of the kids. At the end of the contract, happy or semi-happy couples could opt to renew their contract. Otherwise, they could just walk away without any legal hassles.

This issue is relatively a shock, as Mexico has the second largest population of Catholics. Temporary marriage doesn't sound ethical. Anyway, the Catholic Church isn't very keen of this idea as the authorities strongly believe this reform as absurd and it contradicts with the nature of marriage.

Temporary marriage is also legal in Iran and it can as short as few minutes or as long as couples' lifetime. Contract marriage is considered as a loophole in Islamic law, as it helps to decrease sex out of wedlock. In Iran conduct of aldutery is punishable by whipping to death. ]

Anyway, if marriages too are into contract, where will be the value in it? Marriage are not suppose to be for fun. Or is this how the world thinks currently?